For too many years I’ve been saying that I needed to write an article about the next generation of non-monags. But man I suck, because instead of writing the piece, I just talked about writing it for awhile. If I had gotten off my, what some my perceive as a, fat lazy ass, and made good on my words, well then things could have turned out different for me. But they didn’t and instead, they turned out well anyway. The good thing is, that two friends of mine did write a really good piece about the new monogamy. I must say, I’m quite happy for them but pissed at myself for not getting it out there when I said I would.

I have always said that I find it hard to believe in monogamy for now and ever more. And while I have a (monogamous even if we don’t say we are) boyfriend that I love a lot, well, most of the time (today is actually an exception as we are working through something that I’m not ready to talk about and for sure does not make me happy, and in fact has made me pretty sad all day, but we are w-o-r-k-i-n-g through it, at least we both want to, nonetheless…and no, it doesn’t involve non monogamy), I know that it’s difficult to committ to something in that forever sort of way. We don’t even know what we’re going to like or not like tomorrow, so how can we promise anybody forever? I mean, we don’t even have that long to live.

Regardless, one of the couples in the article, a very talented photographer and his girlfriend have a list of rules when it comes to being non-monogamous, and I must say, if I were to ever be in a relationship that was going to open up, and yes there is a possibility that I will be in that type of aforementioned relationship, I will have to steal and apply these rules for me and my partner.

(1) The Vampire Rule: If they