Have you seen my buddy?
I got this email today. It’s about my My Buddy post. I think it’s got lots of legitimate points. I apologize if my review was unclear at times. I’m going to post my comments in between hers.
“First I would like to say that I am a fan of your website and read many of your blogs when time permits. I think it is ironic that you wrote a blog about my buddy. I purchased a buddy about a month ago from ebay. I am a very sexual individual and when I found this product, I was like WOW, what a creative idea, so I purchased one in cantaloupe because I am an orange-kind of girl.”
Okay, before I say something stupid, I just need to say that this email says a lot of really good things. Now when she say’s she’s an orange kind of girl, it does remind me of one of the most annoying jokes I’ve ever heard.
“Knock-knock”
“Who’s there?”
“Banana”
“Banana who?”
“Knock-knock”
“Who’s there?”
“Banana”
“Banana who?”
“Knock-knock”
“Who’s there?”
“Orange”
“Orange who?”
“Orange you glad I didn’t say banana?”
Okay. My bad. Carry on.
“Anyway, I am only responding to your blog because I disagree with some of the things that you talked about. The buddy can be used with any type of wand, not just the Adam and Eve one, so if that one is too strong for you, you should try a different wand. Also, it is not just for women who want or like power and position. It’s a toy designed to be used alone or with a partner (and there are not many of those out there). When you talk about power and position, it was a little unclear as to what you meant. I feel power is not a good choice of wording because a woman using this toy in the correct position with a partner is not in any type of power. Doggie style is a position that puts the man in the power position, unless you meant power as in the power from the wand. Can you see why I thought this was unclear.”
The Hitachi Magic Wand isn’t made by Adam and Eve, it’s made by Hitachi, but other than that, I apologize for being really unclear. What I did mean by power was intensity, not roles or power play or dominance, I simply meant that since a wand provides a lot of juice, it’s a bit too much for a clit like mine. Yes, doggie style is not necessarily a position of power, unless, perhaps, you control all the movement and he simply waits for you to back up on his cock, but with My Buddy, I don’t think that would be all that enjoyable, as you’d be rocking the wand, up and down and not exactly hitting the perfect spots. I don’t own any other wands because I find them all a bit distracting, but yes, maybe I could have tried another wand. However when someone orders My Buddy it does come with an Hitachi Magic Wand.
“Last but not least, you described in your blog how to use it correctly, but when you talked about your usage on the buddy, you yourself used it incorrectly. The buddy is not meant to be squatted over. It is meant to be used by placing your knees along side of the buddy while you lean forward (ie doggie style) and you control how much stimulation you want from the wand. This quote here from your blog “I imagine it would actually work well if I was in doggie style, getting fucked from behind”, informs me that you did use it incorrectly. I feel that if you used it correctly the first time with or without your partner you may have enjoyed it. Getting fucked from behind on the buddy is fantastic, it causes me and I’m sure many other women to have MULTIPLE orgasms and I control how much stimulation I want from the wand. The only part I agree with in your blog is that it is a strong stimulator but since I have the control of it, it works out well.”
Perhaps I did use it incorrectly, but I’m sure I’m not the only woman who would try it this way. I mean, sex toys are meant to be toyed with, no? I do agree with her though, I’m sure that this is a fantastic toy, and like I believe I said before, it has it’s place and there are many women that do and will love it. I will ask my partner to try it doggie style with me. We will get back to you on this. It may be a while. I’m out of town next week. But that’s not really a good excuse, is it?.
“I just wanted to email you about this because it was the first time I ever really disagreed with one of your blogs. I love the buddy and I feel you should retry it the CORRECT way and see what happens.”
Like I said, I will. But is there really only one correct way to use it? If so, mistakes were made because I’m only human. At least that’s my excuse today.
