I teach a lot of classes about going down on penis, and thought it time to share some of the most important things about giving good head. It’s not only about technique, although technique is important when you get down to it.

1. You have to want to be there. If you’re not into what you’re doing, or who you’re doing it to, don’t do it. That’s the bottom line. Any guy will be able to tell if you’re not that into it, and if you lack the enthusiasm and commitment giving head entails then find some other activity that makes you happy. The person doing the giving needs to get pleasure out of providing pleasure. Otherwise, don’t go there.

2. Eye contact. You don’t need to gaze into each others eyes from the moment you start till the moment you finish, but you should make lots of eye contact before you begin to just bob up and down. It’s also nice to take breaks to look at your partner in all his glory (and this gives you a chance to rest your jaw). In the beginning, place light kisses on the tip of his penis while you look him in the eyes. Suck on his balls (again, lightly) and stare back up at him while you tease the stepchildren. When he’s finishing up, watch his facial expressions as he lets go, and enjoy getting him off. There’s no right time to look at your partner, it’s more that it feels right to do so.

3. Spit is lube. In fact it’s the most natural lube you’ve got. You don’t have to make like a porn star and hock a loogie, but you can still use a good amount of spit to soak his shaft and maneuver his manhood. All you need to do is gather saliva and then go down on his penis while your own wetness is pooled in your mouth. No need to spit or get sloppy, although trust me, he’ll like the visual.

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