I’m taking the title from my friend Lux over at Boinkology, where she posted a video of herself talking about the exact same thing. It got me thinking a lot. I mean I am a Jew, but do I date other Jews? I dated a Jew for nine years once, yes, in a row, but since then let’s just say my batting average when it comes to dating, or even just sleeping with Jewish men, is almost at zero.

It’s not that I don’t like Jews, I’m not one of the self-hating types, it’s just, well, for starters, I find that Jewish men remind me a lot of the kinds of boys I grew up with (I do come from a part of Long Island that has a large number of Jews) and that doesn’t necessarily remind me of happy times. I think of Jewish men, although not all Jewish men, because men like my friend Harry don’t fall into this category, as mommy’s boys, and honestly I don’t want to have to replace their mommy or feel a sense of competition for their affection.

And I often think that Jew on Jew mating, not necessarily dating, but the making babies part, produces super Jew babies. If you look at me, you can see what I’m talking about. I look like a Jew. And yes, I know I can say that only because I am Jewish, and if I weren’t then it would sound like I’m anti-semitic. I’m not. I’m just stating the plain truth. I have a big nose, big features, curly bordering-on-black, thick, long hair and dark eyes. Once in a while I’m mistaken for Italian or even Spanish (my dad has this Spanish thing going) but more often than not, I’m not mistaken at all. That being said, there are lots of different types of Jews, and I’m specifically talking about my type, the Long Island born and bred Jew.

Of course I can see why you fall in love with a Jew too (especially if you happen to be one yourself). The comfortability and familiarity are what attract two people of any similar religious background, especially if they are active members of their community, and I’m cool with that too. It’s just not for me.

I’ve been dating a non-Jew (or goy as non-Jews are sometimes referred to) for over three years now. He’s the opposite of Jewish, as in German and English and Irish, and what I love about our separate religious upbringings is that it gives us plenty more to learn from each other. Yes, at times, it also means we don’t relate the same way I could with Moses Mendelbaum, but that’s part of the deal when you inter-date. And religious holidays are never a fight, since we don’t have to split our time between two places. Besides, he’s way more spiritual than he is religious, and on good days, so am I.

I’m not opposed to 2 Jews dating. I think when it works out, it’s lovely for the people involved. I’m just saying there’s something about other men that peaks my interest way more often than Jewish men do. Perhaps it’s the years of being with only one Jew (from the ripe age of 15-24), or perhaps it’s just who I like these days, but I haven’t dated a member of my tribe in a long ass time.

It’s not that I can never love another Jew. I love lots of them. And maybe I’ll even make love to some others of them in this lifetime. It’s just that I’ve never been on JDate, and I never will.