On today’s Hot Sox Podcast I delve into two of my favorite sexy subjects –  grrreeeatttt blowjobs and handjobs! Even if you know everything you ever thought you could possibly know about giving head-blowing oral, I believe that you can still feel good listening to this Hot Sox podcast. I mean, I’m always up for a good refresher course, and while this one is beautifully basic – with a little perineum action thrown in – I really am enthusiastic about the subject, which you may remember from reading this Heeb Magazine article (the above picture accompanied the writing).

From the places to blow to how-to, get ready to grip the head and shaft while I talk about the frenulum (I know, you know, I love that word), foreskin, masturbation sleeves, mouths, hands, the prostate cradle, gagging, swallowing and 20 minutes more of advice on great blowjobs and handjobs, since the two really go head in hand!

Listen on the itunes page here, and don’t forget to visit adameve for 50% off any one item!

Every Thursday I’ll be answering a relationship/dating/sex question on my blog. If you have a question you’d like to submit, leave a comment with the question in it. Or send it to me at hottwax at gmail dot com.

Here’s my disclaimer about this next, new column. I’m not going to be unbiased, it never makes for interesting reading. I am going to be honest, and at times long-winded, because it’s who I am.

Question: Can you manufacture chemistry if it isn’t there from the start? If, and when, you choose a partner to spend the rest of your life with, should it come with benefits?

Answer: Pheromones, maybe. Chemistry, no, I don’t think so.

Let’s get back to the question (warning: I will divert from the question again and again), one I posed to myself because it came up today in conversation. And I know “should” is one of the ugliest words in the dictionary. I also know that all relationships are unique – like tiny snowflakes on a cold December day, and if I were being as politically correct as I could be (or more accurately relationship pc) I would say something like:

“it depends on what the parties involved in said relationship discuss, agree upon and manufacture.”

But no, I don’t think you can manufacture chemistry, not when it was never there from the start. Not when it didn’t have something to build upon. Chemistry just doesn’t work like that.

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Wednesday’s are officially how to hump day here at the new-n-improved I’m-going-to-write-every-weekday-Waxman-blog. Not that you need any instruction on exactly how to hump, but rather today is designed to offer suggestions, advice, techniques and awareness to your possibly already hump-er-iffic lifestyle. It’s a big day, this December 1st, not only because it’s hump day, but because it’s World AIDS day as well as the first night of Hanukkah.

Let’s start with World AIDS day and move on from there. The thing that has changed the most since HIV was first named – sometime in the early ’80′s, oddly I remember sitting on my grandparents couch reading about this mysterious “gay” disease in, of all places, The National Enquirer – is that more and more people are living with, as opposed to dying from, HIV. That’s a great start, but that’s not the end. While Truvada, the latest HIV drug that seems to be working for some people in well-developed countries, is promising even more hope, in places like Africa, where, according to Scarleteen’s tweets, 1/2 of the cases are due to rape, there’s a lot more education, information and medication that needs to happen. You can educate yourself all over this world wide web about HIV, so why not start here.

Now, let’s get humpy, and since today is World AIDS Day (I know, I said that already) let’s talk about safer sex. For starters, if you’re not familiar with Crown Condoms, let me just say that these are definitely my favorite condoms. They’re strong and thin, and allow both the guy who hates condoms, and the girl who does to, to still feel like they’re feeling each other. Plus, if you add a dab of lube to the tip of his penis, BEFORE you unroll the condom, he may like it even more. To make life even sexier, you can learn to put a condom on with your mouth – not your teeth.

First, check the expiration date on the condom, because condoms do expire.

Next, open the condom wrapper and remove the condom. The condom, when unrolled properly, will look like this:

and NOT Do you see the difference?

To put it on with your mouth, place the reservoir tip in your mouth and suck on it like your sucking on a pacifier – or something more adult, maybe a nipple. The rim around the condom, before it’s unrolled, will still stay on the outside of your lips. Then, start by slowly placing the condom over the tip of the penis or dildo and from there, use your lips, head and neck to unroll the condom down the shaft. You can also use your hands, it’s not cheating, and if you keep bobbing that head while you “hand”le it, it’s going to look all hot anyway.

You should also hold the reservoir tip, that’s the point at the top, while you unroll the condom with your hand, and if you still have any condoms with nonoxynol-9, throw them out RIGHT NOW. That microbicide isn’t only bad for your body, but from the ever fabulous Go Ask Alice website:

“The Joint United Nations Programme on HIV/AIDS (UNAIDS), conducted a four-year study on the effectiveness of nonoxynol-9 (N-9) gel as a microbicide (a chemical substance that kills viruses and bacteria) against HIV. The study found that the women who used N-9 were not only unprotected from HIV, but became infected with the virus at an approximately 50 percent higher rate than the placebo-gel-using participants.”

I once read that N-9 was brought to the United States as a cleaning agent for hospital floors too. Whatever it’s usage, it has no right being in any body. So avoid lubes and condoms with nonoxynol-9, and try those Crown Condoms, or, Beyond Seven, for those who hang a little larger, although I think that those extra large condoms are sometimes more gimmicky than girthy. Regardless, wrap it up, use lube to make it feel better and remember that it’s World AIDS day.

Now, on to Hanukkah, that festival of lights. Since it’s hump day and Hanukkah, why not experiment with a little candle wax that isn’t only menorah friendly, but that you can actually use on your body? I love those Jimmyjane Afterglow Candles. Not only do they smell amazing, but as the wax melts it becomes a massage oil. How cool is that? Just in case it doesn’t go without saying, don’t use these directly with condoms, but for a sensual and en”light”ened experience this Hanukkah, try enjoying the flicker of candle light from more than the menorah?

Happy Hump Day!