March 07, 2005
Relating
Me. Saturday night.
I'm trying to think of words to describe a relationship that isn't boyfriend/girlfriend.
I don't like being called simply a "friend" because that can't accurately describe something that involves more than friendship. I don't like "friends with privilege" either because that still sounds like all you're doing is getting some on the side. And lover sounds like there's nothing but sex going on. Maybe lady or man friend? Kind of has a less serious ring than boyfriend or girlfriend, but a more serious tone than friend.
Or what about flova, my version of friend + lover, only it has some sort of New York accent at the end. Or partner, although that sounds too relationshipy I guess.
I just finished my column this week for Steppin Out and although it may be one of my worst columns yet, it mentions the man I've been "seeing," another term I hate because we see a lot of people, and while he once described me as a "friend with privilege" I don't want to use that term back at him. So I've been thinking about the best way to describe what we have without calling it a "relationship," cause that's another scary term sometimes.
Oh, and while we're on the subject, I hate the term "making love." It seems so fake. Just say fucking, screwing or having sex, but making love, what's that all about. How do you make love and what does love look like?
Maybe I just need to grow up and call a spade a spade. But what is a spade anyway?
Posted by jamye at March 7, 2005 04:05 PM