It had been years before I realized I had left my specially picked (not the one above) Simply Blown green glass dildo behind. Back in the day, before Simply Blown had as many styles and colors to choose from, I was offered my very own glass didlo. I had never owned my own molten crystal glass dildo (that word molten makes me wet), and the thought that I could own it in green! green! made me very happy. Although I guess not that happy, since years went by, and I forgot all about it. Then, about three weeks ago I thought, “where is that glass dildo that those guys at Simply Blown gave me. I have no idea.” It had been years since I’d seen it, and I have never even used it. Thoughts are powerful and just last week, whilst podcasting at my dear friend Fifi Jingles home, we started to talk about her arsenal of sex toys. She offered to show me her stash, and right there, smack dab in the middle of her stash, she pulled out a Simply Blown green glass dildo. She explained how I left it at her house for fear of breakage (silly fear, it’s a tough toy) and I had forgotten to come and reclaim it.
So reclaim I did. Last night I spent some quality time with the toy, and all I can say is WOW. I’m not normally an insert-something-inside-myself-while-masturbating masturbator, but that’s about to change. Using the glass toy really helped me learn about the build up of my arousal process. And I ejaculated a ton. That was fun. Watch more, and then go get your own glass dildo. Simply Blown makes lots of shapes and sizes (and toys for your bum too).
As I walked through the valley of the shadow of Los Angeles, flip camera in hand, I decided to think my thoughts out loud and record them as this week’s sex review. While being single isn’t a product, there are a lot of services out there to help people not be single anymore (think online dating sites, matchmakers, life coaches, therapists). The truth is, some people prefer being single, and some don’t. So, as a professional sex educator, I decided to post a personal review of how I feel (right now) about being single.
Sure there’s a pro and con list for being single, and being partnered, but I know that I get more done, feel more accomplished, and inspired when I’m part of a team. I once worked with a radio host, we’ll call him Lionel, who said there was no we in Lionel (there isn’t, only an I) and maybe after an aborted partnership that ended later in life, or after children, I understand (more) the single life and why it’s a preference. I once dated a guy who said my biggest drawback was that I “needed” love. Who doesn’t need love? If you think about the best art, work, stories, songs, even those where one person gets all the credit, the truth is, they never did it alone. Nobody does their best work alone, or is inspired to do their best work, alone.
There is research to back up the idea that happily married people live longer and stay healthier. I know the same can’t be said for the unhappily married, but I’d rather be single than be in the wrong, long relationship, but to quote Sebastian the crab from the Little Mermaid, “the seaweed is always greener in somebody else’s lake.”
A few years back two men, armed with cameras, lighting and sound came to my house to interview me on a subject I know much about, and love even more. If you’ve ever read my blog, or my book, you know what “that” is, and if not, I’m talking about what Jack and Jill do to get off when they’re not up that hill together.
Jacking off. Jilling off. Get it? I’m talking about masturbation.
I love masturbation. It relieves stress, tension, even allergies. It boosts self-esteem, helps us get to know our bodies, and even has anti-aging properties, the kind that may not be proven by science, but that can be seen in the faces of masturbation activists. If you need more proof on this anti-aging thing, have a look at Betty Dodson (she’s over 80).
I’m honored to be part of a documentary that includes Dr. Joycelyn Elders and Janeane Garofalo (and yes, I’ll bend down and pick up those names I’ve dropped, thank you). They’re just two of the army of the sexually educated who continue to bring attention to a topic of personal interest. A topic that you may not still think is taboo, but kind-of, sort-of, it is. If you don’t believe me, just look at the hype that surrounded “Gossip Girl” Taylor Momsen’s admission last year that her vibrator is more important than a boyfriend right now. If you haven’t seen the trailer yet, watch it. The movie still needs funds to get finished, and it deserves to be seen. And if you can, donate to Sticky.
Today’s sex product review is Good Clean Love Oil – 1 oz. travel size, to make the TSA happy. This 100% vegan, natural blend of apricot kernel oil, organic Jojoba oil, Vitamin E antioxidant formula and essential oils smells great, tastes good and feels light on the skin, like oil on the body should.
The sample pack comes with three scents; an earthy one (Origins), a chai-tea one (Indian Spice) and rose (Caribbean Rose) and if you’re into scented massage oils then this gift pack is worth sampling. Hear, and see, my review of the paraben free products and listen to me live on LATalkRadio with GCL’s Wendy Strgar today at noon PST:
I love music. To dance to, to hoop to, to listen to, so my only question about the Freestyle rechargeable, wireless vibrator from OhMiBod is why did it take me so long to review this?! This one-of-a-kind vibrator gets you off TO your music, and WITH your music because it plugs into your MP3 player to work with the sounds you want to hear. The peeps (and I love the peeps) behind OhMiBod thought of everything, from traveling with your toy, to how to listen, to the 8 various ways you can enjoy this rechargeable vibe.
The Freestyle brings music to the nexxxt level and who can’t jive with that?!
Live on location from a “secret” windy roof top location in Venice, California, this week’s sex product review is The Screaming O‘s Bang O vibrating cock ring. What makes the Bang O different is the three weighted balls that dangle low for extra bangin’ stimulation. Used during intercourse, the vibrating bullet is designed to stimulate her clitoris, but I prefer vibrating pleasure rings to use during oral sex (think about using it when you’re going down on him or a dildo). Or, use it over a few fingers for vibrating, finger-licking masturbation of her clitoris. Watch the short sex toy review to learn more about the waterproof, battery-operated Bang O!
Man Eaters from Outer Space is the latest fun(ny looking) toy from Big Teaze Toys, and it’s designed to eat your man, or at least his shaft. Three levels of vibration, just poke ‘im in the belly to change the speed, and you’ve got a waterproof, form fitting massage buddy that will make you smile. Check out my latest on location review:
It’s a sex pillow for use during sex (writing, typing or resting too) and it claims to provide oodles of pleasure for men with small penises who want to go a little deeper (and pleasure for their partner’s too!). I find the blog and the rest of the little deeper website a tad bit creepy, and still, it’s this week’s sex product review.
This week’s sex product review screams sensuality! touch! hot wax! black pepper and pomegranate! To find out more, watch the latest Toying with Tuesday, sex toy video review:
This is the first sex product review that in order to provide full disclosure I will say I haven’t used yet, and even if I had, it’s actually not something I could use, not having a penis and all. But it’s something that I think, while not necessarily a “toy,” can be a great tool for foreplay, mind games, hot sex and the like, and something I hope to use with a loving, trusting partner sometime in the next year of my life. It’s the CB-6000 Male Chastity Device.
The CB-6000 is a cock lock, the kind of thing he wears on his penis so that he can’t get an erection and break free and hump the world. It’s the kind of product he has to have trust in, because he has to know where/who has the lock so he can get out, but he also has to believe that whomever he trusts is going to let him out of the cock lock eventually. That’s after he finds the perfect fit so that he can’t rise to any occasion.
The couple pushing the product this summer said that the penis in the relationship sometimes stays in the lock for a few days straight, especially when they’re at a conference pushing the product. You can shower in it (it’s plastic) and pee through it, so there’s really no need to take it off if he gets off wearing it.
They gave me the camouflage one to take home, and one day use, because it’s my favorite of the lot, but there are definitely other colors, and materials, to choose from. You can see what I’m talking about, and hear how you can even go through a metal detector while wearing the CB-6000, a new way to look at foreplay, by watching me now:
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